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I read this article from Yahoo and cannot help post it here. We all need to be reminded once in a while.
An affair is one of the most difficult challenges a couple can face, and nothing destroys a romantic relationship faster than infidelity. Is it really possible to affair-proof your relationship? The answer is, "Yes, it’s possible." But in order to make that happen, it’s important to know what causes an affair in the first place.
An affair is an extreme symptom of a relationship that has been in trouble for some time. Affairs do not happen out of the blue and rarely happen because someone is a bad person. Cheating is caused by one single factor: "Lack." In a relationship, it’s a lack of love, attention, intimacy, recognition, respect, and connection that builds up over time. Eventually, this "lack" can become so painful that the person in the most pain will often act out by cheating. Because communication has broken down, the cheating person doesn’t feel like they can talk to their partner, so that makes them vulnerable to cheating.
So, how do you avoid getting to this point in a relationship? Below are seven ways to avoid the "lack" and prevent a potential affair.
1. Avoid complacency. Don’t ever take your relationship for granted. Partnerships need to be nourished daily by a kind word, appreciation, a loving kiss, a smile. Complacency is a warning signal that you and your partner are out of touch with each other.
2. Keep the lines of communication open. Don’t sweep issues under the rug. They won’t go away! Learn ways to resolve differences so that recurring arguments don’t continue.
3. Pay attention to your gut. If you’re feeling something isn’t quite right in your relationship, 99 percent of the time you’re correct. Find a way to approach your partner to talk about things. Keep your relationship current by checking in on a weekly basis to make sure problems aren’t building up.
4. Find time for each other. Don’t get so busy that you forget to have a date with your partner. Make time away from chores and work to renew your loving feelings. Remember how important your mate is to you. Tell them, by making time for them.
5. Know when it’s a time of stress and pay attention to your partner even more. Some common trigger times for extra stress in a relationship are job changes, health problems, changes in finances, and the death of a family member or friend. During these stressful periods, pay extra attention to your relationship. Let your partner know you’re there, and make even more time to connect with each other.
6. Understand the real issues in your relationship. Learn tools for resolving arguments. Avoid blaming, shaming, and the need to always be right in an argument. Learn what you’re really fighting about so that you can resolve your issues. If you’re fighting about the wrong thing, you’ll never resolve arguments.
7. Always remember what it was that made you fall in love with your partner. Too often we allow our disagreements to cloud our love for our significant other, and we forgot why we even fell in love! Keep your sense of humor. Give your partner the benefit of the doubt and don’t make them your enemy.
Avoid the "lack" and affair-proof your relationship by staying conscious of yourself and your partner. Nurture each other and keep the lines of communication open.
Chinese New Year is only a week away and I thought I’d share the lucky things for you this year. You can adopt these with your clothes and shoes! (and everything else)
Women these days are lucky, they have so many options on accessories ever since companies started coming out with great fashion designer jewelry. Sometimes, you cannot even tell what’s real from real anymore, and women work it to their advantage.
Just look at these faux sapphire earrings from Holsted Jewelers. The details and craftsmanship are so fine even a jeweler would have a hard time telling it’s not real!
I am not saying that one should not invest anymore, but if you do not have the money for it, there is always a means to get the look you want for less. It’s how you carry yourself that’s important.
Sure God created man before woman. But then you always make a rough draft before the final masterpiece. ~Author Unknown
Whatever women do they must do twice as well as men to be thought half as good. Luckily, this is not difficult. ~Charlotte Whitton
I have always believed that there is always room for growth and self-improvement in a person. When you stop thinking you need to change, that’s when you stop to grow as a person. I always find ways to make sure I change myself for the better. Women in particular are very adaptable to change – they embrace it with open arms and thrive on changes. That is the reason why we have achieved where we are now – people with equal rights as men, and given freedom and equality in the workplace and at home.
How many mothers out there juggle motherhood and career work wonderfully? It is no easy task and I am glad that the National Association of Professional Women or NAPW was formed. They are a members only organization that has ties with Fortune 500 companies offering exclusive savings to over 60 recognizable businesses. It gives women the change to build networks and in turn network themselves for more job, business and network opportunities.
The National Association of Professional Women offers seminars, podcasts, webinars, educational tools, and help foster career development skills that enable members to achieve personal and career success
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"I believe in manicures. I believe in overdressing. I believe in primping at leisure and wearing lipstick. I believe in pink. I believe that loving is the best calorie burner. I believe in kissing. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles."
Audrey Hepburn
Remember when I blogged about Lizzie Miller? Apparently, that small photo featured in Glamour on page 194 sparked thousands of readers to send great feedback about how the magazine is holding up the true beauty of a woman.
And I quote:
The picture wasn’t of a celebrity. It wasn’t of a supermodel. It was of a woman sitting in her underwear with a smile on her face and a belly that looks…wait for it…normal.
The "woman on p. 194." Gorgeous!
And wait, there’s more!
These are size 12-18 plus-size models who represent the normal women. I would never be a size 4 even in my skinniest. At size 6, I looked like a skeleton with skin – I look great at size 12! And I am so happy that FINALLY magazines like Glamour are going to be featuring REAL women soon!
- A continued commitment to showing a wide range of body types—and, of course, racial diversity—in our pages, including fashion and beauty stories.
- A promise to give the best plus models not just work, but the same great work straight-size models get, partnering with top photographers, stylists and makeup artists. Because a generous helping of fantasy, in our view, is fabulous—as long as it’s extended to women of all sizes.
- An ongoing celebration of the so-called imperfections, from nose bumps to gap teeth smiles, that make us all unique.
- Enthusiastic support for any designer who manufactures chic clothes we can photograph on full-bodied models. Isn’t it time for changes like these? Reality, after all, is everywhere. On Twitter, Demi Moore tweets matter-of-factly about her body: “I still have excess skin & stretch marks!” And then, “Comes with having a few kids 4 some of us!” Scott Schuman, a.k.a. the Sartorialist, has attracted a cult following by photographing real people with great style—and quirks. Crystal Renn has written a fascinating new memoir about her transition from an anorexic straight-size model to a healthy, exuberant and very successful plus-size model. And Jeffrey Buchman, professor of advertising and marketing communications at the Fashion Institute of Technology, notes that Renn and plus-size model Johanna Dray have shown up on runways at Jean Paul Gaultier and John Galliano, respectively. “Art leads social change, and high fashion is art,” says Buchman. “So these are not frivolous choices; they are clarion calls.”
Seven total knockouts From far left: Crystal Renn, Amy Lemons, Ashley Graham, Kate Dillon, Anansa Sims and Jennie Runk. Bottom Center: Lizzie Miller.
What I would do just to be this “fat”!
Filippa Hamilton, a stunning 5’10” & 120 lbs Ralph Lauren model since 2002, has been fired because she was told she was “overweight” and could not fit into the RL clothes anymore.
You can clearly tell that her RL ad was severely and wrongly Photoshopped, providing a very distorted image of a woman’s body. Now if I was overweight like Filippa, I’d gladly be called overweight all my life. No wonder women are so obsessed on how to lose belly fat with all the ads on magazines showing severely Photoshopped, distorted images.
And just so you know, anatomically, with that waist, she would not even be able to stand straight with the weight of her head (and HAIR!)
FYI, Hamilton declared on record: “I’m very proud of what I look like, and I think a role model should look healthy." Indeed.